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Congrats to 2019 City Series Winners and Graduating 12s
06/19/2019
Congratulations to all of the 2019 City Series Championship Winners! Majors...
Congratulations to MLL 2019 Softball All Star Selections
06/12/2019
Congratulations to the following players who have been selected as...
Congratulations to 2019 Baseball All Stars
06/08/2019
Congratulations to the following players who have been selected as...
Director of Field Maintenance Job Posting
06/06/2019
Mclean Little League Director of Field Maintenance Job Posting Job...
Used Equipment Drive with Leveling the Playing Field
05/31/2019
McLean Little League is teaming up with Leveling the Playing...
McLean Little League Alumnae face off in NEWMAC Conference game
04/10/2019
Marisa DeFranco and Julia Ferris were teammates on the Wheat’s...
What Makes A Nightmare Sports Parent & What Makes A Great One
03/18/2013
What Makes A Nightmare Sports Parent -- And What Makes A Great One February...
 
Congrats to 2019 City Series Winners and Graduating 12s

Congrats to MLL Graduating 12s

Congratulations to all of the 2019 City Series Championship Winners!

Majors Baseball Fitzgerald Properties

AAA Baseball SAP Concur (Back to Back) 

AA Baseball Clark Construction Group

Majors Softball Keep Smiling – Dr. Hinkle 

AAA Softball Kim Dermatology (Back to Back) 

AA Softball Great Falls (Schlegel)

Congratulations also to the Majors Baseball Luposello Marzban, AAA Baseball Fass Results, AA Baseball Horizon Government, Majors Softball Wheat’s, AAA Softball , and AA Softball Vestigant on great seasons. 

Thanks also to all those hard-working baseball and softball coaches and families -- thank you for your months of dedication.

Congratulations most of all to all of our graduating 12 year olds.  Thanks to you and you families for making MLL such a wonderful league of which to be a part.

Baseball

First Name

Last Name

Team Name

Jack

Grose

>AA Baseball - American League>AA AB23 - Pitch Hit Run

Bram

Ellis

>AAA Baseball- American League>AAA AB15 - SAP Concur

Aiden

Harper

>AAA Baseball- National League>AAA NB13 - PolicyViz

Blake

Powell

>AAA Baseball- National League>AAA NB13 - PolicyViz

Thomas

Twining

>AAA Baseball- National League>AAA NB15-The DorcanGroup/Compass

Michael

Neakrase

>AAA Baseball- National League>AAA NB16 - McLean Pool and Spa

Landon

Boehm

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Sebastian

Carmenates

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Brennan

Core

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Tucker

Cumberland

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Nicholas

Daly

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Matthew

Faino

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Neik

Shariati

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Peyton

Weaver

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB1 - McLean Hardware

Alexander

Brilliant

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Colin

Francis

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Graham

La Force

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Luke

Overman

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Jason

Seeber

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Hayden

Smouse

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Patrick

Steeg

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB2 - FitzGerald Prop.

Wilson

Burwell

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB3 - McLean Insurance

Ryan

Curry

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB3 - McLean Insurance

Stefan

Harvey

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB3 - McLean Insurance

Zachary

Tescher

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB3 - McLean Insurance

Max

Todorov

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB3 - McLean Insurance

Ethan

Ball

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Nathaniel

Carr

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Edwin

Gaulding

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Nickolas

Jorjani

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Tyler

Majkowski

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Maxwell

Mullen

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Seth

Peleg

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Dylan

Waits

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB4 - Wayne Insulation

Jake

Adamec

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Alex

Gonzalez

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Ryan

Grohowski

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Kai

Jefferson

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Taran

Kamat

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Brennan

Lengel

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Marcus

Nance

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Gabriel

Pegues

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB5 - Cusumano & Stuver

Fisher

Blankenbaker

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB6 - Chain Bridge Bank

Jack

Fucci

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB6 - Chain Bridge Bank

Tomonori

Iba

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB6 - Chain Bridge Bank

Charlie

Palma

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB6 - Chain Bridge Bank

Michael

Weber

>Majors Baseball -American League>Majors AB6 - Chain Bridge Bank

Luke

Austin

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB1 - Wheats Lawn

Aidan

Daly

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB1 - Wheats Lawn

Benjamin

Irish

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB1 - Wheats Lawn

John

Kirk

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB1 - Wheats Lawn

Brady

Millar

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB1 - Wheats Lawn

Daniel

Reilly III

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB1 - Wheats Lawn

Sawyer

Barrett

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Colin

Blakley

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Alex

Brown

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Wilson

Buttz

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Aaron

Chandler

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Michael

Fairbank

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Sebastian

Richey

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Zachary

Speroni

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB2 - McLean Animal Hosp.

Nathan

Alexander

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Nathan

Bender

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Tanner

Breslin

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Jacob

Daly

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Tony

Diller

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Tyler

Langman

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Andrew

Lohman

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Trip

Moser

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB3  - Flowers and Plants

Robson

Barnett

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

John

Deringer

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

Zachary

Ellis

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

Deven

Hagen

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

Kiran

Sharma

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

Thomas

Sharp

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

Andrew

Stayin

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB4 - Dr. Deirdre Maull

Liam

Conley

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Ryu

Johnson

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Walker

Johnson

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Jackson

Moss

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Mark

Muehlheuser

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Liam

Petersen

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Vinnie

Rana

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB5 - Luposello Marzban

Connor

Borelli

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Christian

Dray

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Jp

Evans

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Deen

Ghannam

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Tyler

Giunchi

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Matthew

Gordon

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Alexander

Mallus

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Aydin

Prell

>Majors Baseball-National League>Majors NB6 - KPMG

Noah

Spinicci-Shea

 

 

Softball

First Name

Last Name

Team Name

Isabella

Brooks

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Kaitlyn

Cole

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Chelsea

Engle

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Charlotte

Loving

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Riley

O'Donnell

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Hayley

Richardson

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Ella Kathryn

Templer

>Majors Softball>MS MS1-Keep Smiling-Dr. Hinkle

Caitlin

Hohenthaner

>Majors Softball>MS MS2 -Wheat's Lawn & Landscape

Lauren

Kim

>Majors Softball>MS MS2 -Wheat's Lawn & Landscape

Lara

Quinn-Barabanov

>Majors Softball>MS MS2 -Wheat's Lawn & Landscape

Abby

Rebhan

>Majors Softball>MS MS2 -Wheat's Lawn & Landscape

McKenna

Sullivan

>Majors Softball>MS MS2 -Wheat's Lawn & Landscape

Isabella

Villano

>Majors Softball>MS MS2 -Wheat's Lawn & Landscape

Madison

Keelen

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Reese

Mamajek

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Michaela

Pearce

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Briana

Ramos

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Alexandra

Reddy

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Taryn

Steffan

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Geneva

Webber

>Majors Softball>MS MS3-McLean Community Found.

Fae

Butler

>Majors Softball>MS MS4 - MLS Educational Consult

Emory

Hadden

>Majors Softball>MS MS4 - MLS Educational Consult

Cecelia

Harmon

>Majors Softball>MS MS4 - MLS Educational Consult

Abigail

Hart

>Majors Softball>MS MS4 - MLS Educational Consult

Emily

Manifor

>Majors Softball>MS MS4 - MLS Educational Consult

Sarah

Mund

>Majors Softball>MS MS4 - MLS Educational Consult

Kaitlyn

Fado

>Majors Softball>MS MS5 -Georgelas Group

Haydn

House

>Majors Softball>MS MS5 -Georgelas Group

Emily

Martin

>Majors Softball>MS MS5 -Georgelas Group

Candice

McNeill

>Majors Softball>MS MS5 -Georgelas Group

Maria

Piacesi

>Majors Softball>MS MS5 -Georgelas Group

Sophia

Taliaferro

>Majors Softball>MS MS5 -Georgelas Group


by posted 06/19/2019
Congratulations to MLL 2019 Softball All Star Selections

2018 All Stars

Congratulations to the following players who have been selected as 2019 Softball All-Stars at McLean Little League! Best of luck at the state tournaments!  McLean is cheering you on!

 

McLean Softball 8-10s:

Megan Connery

Cassie Eckberg

Genevieve Fagan

Melody Hadden

Hannah Hoffman

Lucy Jorjani

Sasha Kirk

Jennifer Neigel

Paris Tran

Madeline Shean

Saoirse Sigler

Mary Cullen Thompson

Sydney Walker

Olivia Wood

Manager: Tim Shean; Coaches: Jason Connery, Steve Hoffman

 

McLean Softball 9-11s:

Rhea Bathula

Juliet DiPatri

Qiana Holmes

Madeleine Iams

Sophie Kaintoch

Lindsey Manifor

Julia Markowitz

Nora May

Avery Prendergast

Madeleine Spaner

Greta Uhlmann

Elise Walker

Zoe Wanek

Sienna Williams

Manager: Brad Prendergast; Coaches: Alec Walker, Rob Holmes

 

McLean Softball Majors:

Fae Butler

Chelsea Engle

Kaitlyn Fado

Emory Hadden

Abby Hart

Madison Keelen

Lauren Kim

Charlotte Loving

Reese Mamajek

Emily Manifor

Emily Martin

Abby Rebhan

Hayley Richardson

McKenna Sullivan

Ella Kathryn Templer

Manager: Gerry Megas; Coaches: Jamie Loving, Jamie Hart

 


by posted 06/12/2019
Congratulations to 2019 Baseball All Stars

American League Majors

Congratulations to the following players who have been selected as 2019 Baseball All-Stars at McLean Little League!  Best of luck in the District 4 tournament and BEYOND! (Softball announcement to come...)

McLean American 8-10s
Justin Ball
Matthew Berkland
Banks Briceno
JT Deevy
Ryan Fontenot
Karl Fretwell
Lucas Jones
Steven Karloutsos
Wyatt Overman
Chris Shebby
Daniel Waits
Henry Williams
Nicholas Zafiropulos
Manager: Todd Overman; Coaches: Gray Fontenot, Erik Briceno

Oliver Lucier (Recognized as All-Star, but unable to play)

McLean American 9-11s
Logan Baldrate
Finn Broad
Cardin Clarke
Elias Cohen
Sebastian Malawar
Finn Marino
Gaines Newsome
Aidan Reid
JW Riggins
Jacob Romhilt
John Smith
James Socknat
Jackson Tallent
Manager: Paul Shiffman; Coaches: Bob Riggins and Matt Tallent

McLean American Majors
Jake Adamec
Ethan Ball
Nate Carr
Brennan Core
Colin Francis
Stefan Harvey
Nickolas Jorjani
Tyler Majkowski
Max Mullen
Marcus Nance
Luke Overman
Gabriel Pegues
Dylan Waits
Peyton Weaver
Manager: Mike Carr; Coaches: Tom Ball and Tucker Waits

McLean National 8-10s
Nolan Bartkowski
Charlie Coats
Declan Conley
Tommy Cowley
Charlie Erlanger
Ryan Hart
Jack Perlish
Daggu Rana
Gavin Rosen
Nicholas Rydzewski
Graham Stephenson
Patrick Turney
Adam Wormington
Manager: Eric Perlish; Coaches: David Stephenson and Andrew Coats

McLean National 9-11s
Caius Antolik
Cole Deringer
John Gaskins
Liam Johnson
Caleb Kim
William Lepre
Kyle Levinson
Michael Ma
Colin Millar
Henry Miller
Luke Murphy
Matthew Newsom
Daniel Ockerman
Manager: Terry Murphy; Coaches: Doug Millar and Chris Deringer

McLean National Majors
Aaron Chandler
Liam Conley
Jake Daly
Tony Diller
Christian Dray
Michael Fairbank
Ben Irish
Ryu Johnson
Jackson Moss
Aydin Prell
Vinnie Rana
Tommy Sharp
Drew Stayin
Manager: Charlie Moss; Coaches: Dan Diller and Cameron Prell

Tyler Giunchi (Selected as All Star but unable to play)


by posted 06/08/2019
Director of Field Maintenance Job Posting

MLL Looking for a Dir of Field Maintenance

Mclean Little League

Director of Field Maintenance Job Posting

Job Description

Title: Director of Field Maintenance

McLean Little league is looking for a paid Director of Field Maintenance to prepare and maintain athletic fields, snack bar and related facilities for league games, tournaments, practices and events and who reports to the MLL Board of Directors

Effective Date: 10/01/2019

Please see the linked Job Placement document for additional details and contact information.  Please also pass along to qualified interested parties and see steffan@mcleanll.com for additional information.


by posted 06/06/2019
Used Equipment Drive with Leveling the Playing Field

Drop off your Used Sports Equipment Today!

McLean Little League is teaming up with Leveling the Playing Field (LPF) to run a collection drive for used sports equipment between May 31 and June 15th.  LPF collects donated sports equipment and redistributes it to low-income kids throughout the DMV. All donations benefit needy schools, after school programs, and athletic leagues looking to engage their students in the physical and mental benefits of youth sports participation.  Now is a great time to clean out your garages and basements of old sporting equipment and help LPF get more kids off the sidelines and into the game! 

 

Bins will be placed near the MLL snack bar for equipment donations, with the final collection taking place on June 15th.  LPF is a 501(c)(3) organization and all donations are tax deductible. We will provide tax receipts upon request.  More information available in this flyer and this list of acceptable equipment.

 

If you have any questions or need additional information, please contact Meltem Kodaman at  .  For more information about LPF, please visit their website at: http://www.levelingtheplayingfield.org/ or call them directly at (301) 844-5622.

 

Thanks again for your generosity and community spirit!

 


by posted 05/31/2019
McLean Little League Alumnae face off in NEWMAC Conference game

MLL Softball Alums Marisa DeFranco and Julia Ferris

Marisa DeFranco and Julia Ferris were teammates on the Wheat’s Alley Cats team for two years. (Also, in the photo is Alley Cats coach, Joe DeFranco.) They are now playing Division III softball. Julia attends the Coast Guard Academy in New London, Connecticut and is majoring in Marine Engineering and Naval Architecture. Marisa attends Emerson College in Boston, Massachusetts and is majoring in Media Arts Production.

Both players are also doing well on the diamond. Marisa is in the top ten in the NEWMAC conference in Runs (3rd), Hits (4th) and Batting Average 0.408 (8th).  Julia is a “pitcher only” and is in the top ten in the conference in Wins (2nd), Strikeouts (9th) and Complete Games (3rd).

Behind Julia’s pitching, Coast Guard won the 2nd game of a double-header against Emerson and her old pal Marisa 5-2. Julia pitched a complete game with 3 Ks and only 1 walk. Marisa went 2-3 with a double and scored Emerson’s only 2 runs. Julia also hit one batter…Yes…it was Marisa. Both players are shown in the photo.

Thanks to Joe DeFranco for passing along.


by posted 04/10/2019
What Makes A Nightmare Sports Parent & What Makes A Great One

February 15, 2012 8:20 pm
Written by:
Steve Henson


Hundreds of college athletes were asked to think back: "What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?"

Their overwhelming response: "The ride home from games with my parents."

The informal survey lasted three decades, initiated by two former longtime coaches who over time became staunch advocates for the player, for the adolescent, for the child. Bruce E. Brown and Rob Miller of Proactive Coaching LLC are devoted to helping adults avoid becoming a nightmare sports parent, speaking at colleges, high schools and youth leagues to more than a million athletes, coaches and parents in the last 12 years.

Those same college athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame.

Their overwhelming response: "I love to watch you play."

There it is, from the mouths of babes who grew up to become college and professional athletes. Whether your child is just beginning T-ball or is a travel-team soccer all-star or survived the cuts for the high school varsity, parents take heed.

The vast majority of dads and moms that make rides home from games miserable for their children do so inadvertently. They aren't stereotypical horrendous sports parents, the ones who scream at referees, loudly second-guess coaches or berate their children. They are well-intentioned folks who can't help but initiate conversation about the contest before the sweat has dried on their child's uniform.

In the moments after a game, win or lose, kids desire distance. They make a rapid transition from athlete back to child. And they’d prefer if parents transitioned from spectator – or in many instances from coach – back to mom and dad. ASAP.

Brown (pictured below at podium), a high school and youth coach near Seattle for more than 30 years, says his research shows young athletes especially enjoy having their grandparents watch them perform.

"Overall, grandparents are more content than parents to simply enjoy watching the child participate," he says. "Kids recognize that."

A grandparent is more likely to offer a smile and a hug, say "I love watching you play," and leave it at that.

Meanwhile a parent might blurt out …

“Why did you swing at that high pitch when we talked about laying off it?"

"Stay focused even when you are on the bench.”

"You didn’t hustle back to your position on defense.”

"You would have won if the ref would have called that obvious foul.”

"Your coach didn't have the best team on the field when it mattered most.”

And on and on.

Sure, an element of truth might be evident in the remarks. But the young athlete doesn’t want to hear it immediately after the game. Not from a parent. Comments that undermine teammates, the coach or even officials run counter to everything the young player is taught. And instructional feedback was likely already mentioned by the coach.

"Let your child bring the game to you if they want to,” Brown says.

Brown and Miller, a longtime coach and college administrator, don't consider themselves experts, but instead use their platform to convey to parents what three generations of young athletes have told them.

"Everything we teach came from me asking players questions," Brown says. "When you have a trusting relationship with kids, you get honest answers. When you listen to young people speak from their heart, they offer a perspective that really resonates.”

So what’s the takeaway for parents?

"Sports is one of few places in a child's life where a parent can say, 'This is your thing,’ ” Miller says. "Athletics is one of the best ways for young people to take risks and deal with failure because the consequences aren’t fatal, they aren’t permanent. We’re talking about a game. So they usually don’t want or need a parent to rescue them when something goes wrong.

"Once you as a parent are assured the team is a safe environment, release your child to the coach and to the game. That way all successes are theirs, all failures are theirs."

And discussion on the ride home can be about a song on the radio or where to stop for a bite to eat. By the time you pull into the driveway, the relationship ought to have transformed from keenly interested spectator and athlete back to parent and child:

"We loved watching you play. … Now, how about that homework?"

FIVE SIGNS OF A NIGHTMARE SPORTS PARENT

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Even professional athletes can behave inappropriately when it comes to their children. David Beckham was recently ejected from a youth soccer field for questioning an official. New Orleans radio host Bobby Hebert, a former NFL quarterback, publicly dressed down LSU football coach Les Miles after Alabama defeated LSU in the BCS title game last month. Hebert was hardly unbiased: His son had recently lost his starting position at LSU.

Mom or dad, so loving and rational at home, can transform into an ogre at a game. A lot of kids internally reach the conclusion that if they quit the sport, maybe they'll get their dad or mom back.

As a sports parent, this is what you don't want to become. This is what you want to avoid:

• Overemphasizing sports at the expense of sportsmanship: The best athletes keep their emotions in check and perform at an even keel, win or lose. Parents demonstrative in showing displeasure during a contest are sending the wrong message. Encouragement is crucial -- especially when things aren’t going well on the field.

• Having different goals than your child: Brown and Miller suggest jotting down a list of what you want for your child during their sport season. Your son or daughter can do the same. Vastly different lists are a red flag. Kids generally want to have fun, enjoy time with their friends, improve their skills and win. Parents who write down “getting a scholarship” or “making the All-Star team” probably need to adjust their goals. “Athletes say their parents believe their role on the team is larger than what the athlete knows it to be,” Miller says.

• Treating your child differently after a loss than a win: Almost all parents love their children the same regardless of the outcome of a game. Yet often their behavior conveys something else. "Many young athletes indicate that conversations with their parents after a game somehow make them feel as if their value as a person was tied to playing time or winning,” Brown says.

• Undermining the coach: Young athletes need a single instructional voice during games. That voice has to be the coach. Kids who listen to their parents yelling instruction from the stands or even glancing at their parents for approval from the field are distracted and can't perform at a peak level. Second-guessing the coach on the ride home is just as insidious.

• Living your own athletic dream through your child: A sure sign is the parent taking credit when the child has done well. “We worked on that shot for weeks in the driveway,” or “You did it just like I showed you” Another symptom is when the outcome of a game means more to a parent than to the child. If you as a parent are still depressed by a loss when the child is already off playing with friends, remind yourself that it’s not your career and you have zero control over the outcome.

FIVE SIGNS OF AN IDEAL SPORTS PARENT

Let’s hear it for the parents who do it right. In many respects, Brown and Miller say, it’s easier to be an ideal sports parent than a nightmare. “It takes less effort,” Miller says. “Sit back and enjoy.” Here’s what to do:

• Cheer everybody on the team, not just your child: Parents should attend as many games as possible and be supportive, yet allow young athletes to find their own solutions. Don’t feel the need to come to their rescue at every crisis. Continue to make positive comments even when the team is struggling.

• Model appropriate behavior: Contrary to the old saying, children do as you do, not as you say. When a parent projects poise, control and confidence, the young athlete is likely to do the same. And when a parent doesn’t dwell on a tough loss, the young athlete will be enormously appreciative.

• Know what is suitable to discuss with the coach: The mental and physical treatment of your child is absolutely appropriate. So is seeking advice on ways to help your child improve. And if you are concerned about your child’s behavior in the team setting, bring that up with the coach. Taboo topics: Playing time, team strategy, and discussing team members other than your child.

• Know your role: Everyone at a game is either a player, a coach, an official or a spectator. “It’s wise to choose only one of those roles at a time,” Brown says. “Some adults have the false impression that by being in a crowd, they become anonymous. People behaving poorly cannot hide.” Here’s a clue: If your child seems embarrassed by you, clean up your act.

• Be a good listener and a great encourager: When your child is ready to talk about a game or has a question about the sport, be all ears. Then provide answers while being mindful of avoiding becoming a nightmare sports parent. Above all, be positive. Be your child's biggest fan. "Good athletes learn better when they seek their own answers," Brown says.

And, of course, don’t be sparing with those magic words: "I love watching you play."

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-- Steve Henson is a Senior Editor and Writer at Yahoo! Sports. He has four adult children and has coached and officiated youth sports for 30 years. He can be reached at and on Twitter @HensonYahoo


posted 03/18/2013
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